This morning I went and bought a birthday present for my gorgeous niece Ava who turns 3 this weekend. I can’t believe it – 3 already?! How does it all go so quickly? I got home and checked my emails and was reminded of what else is 3 today. It’s 3 years today since Daisy’s friend Lachlan, from my Mothers Group died. Died. He was 16 months old. From SIDS.
I have written about this before (and from there you can link right back to when it happened) and will do so each year. It’s always a timely reminder for me to look at my beautiful girls and hold them extra close to me. I look at Daisy – 4 years old and what Lachie should be today – full of questions, a yearning for knowledge, humour, bad temperedness, growing up so quickly from this small child into a kid. A proper kid, ready for school. And Harper, only a few months older than what Lachie was when he passed away – energetic, curious, delightful, utterly full of joy and love and enthusiasm for life. I am so very lucky.
A parent cannot imagine the loss of their child. It’s doesn’t even bear thinking about, imagining. I hope that Angus & Jules pain is a little less, that this year has bought them more peace, more time to remember the good that they had, and not what is so achingly missing from their lives. I hope that their little boy Cooper is filling their hearts and homes with noise and love and everything that kids bring to their parents. Tonight I will talk to Daisy about her friend who she no longer remembers, I will hug her tight and count my blessings, like I do every day. I will send a little prayer up to Lachie and let him know that he is remembered. Still. And in a few weeks time when Red Nose Day comes around I will make a donation and hope that it helps the research into why this needless cause of death for those so young even happens at all.
Rest in peace dear boy x
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Rest in Peace indeed xx
As you know, Beth, Lachlan went to Family Day Care with my boy. It’s hard to believe it’s been three years. I will never forget hearing the news. We will be lighting a candle for Lachlan tonight and we’ll be there at the get-together in the park next weekend. Three years ago I told Julia I’d make sure my son remembers his little friend and I intend to honour that promise.
Beth, you have me in tears. We actually met Angus & Julia recently through some friends of ours. I knew about their little boy, but your posts have brought it home for me. I will hug my two extra tight today. Sending my love to Angus, Julia & Cooper. Annie xx
So so sad. SIDS scares the crap out of me.
Thanks for the reminder. Will cuddle Abi and Ted extra tightly tonight. xx
Three.
It will be like three weeks to his dear parents. The pain still so raw.
Red nose day is one day I never miss contributing too.
What a beautiful post in Lachie’s memory. Tragically SIDS is still a reality to too many parents. Red Nose Day is a charity well worth supporting and with their help the numbers are reducing.
I am thankful for my 4 children and 2 grand-daughters each and every day. Stories like this bring home the blessing even more.
thanks so much for sharing. xxx
Just breaks my heart Beth. The type of tragedy I will never understand xo
You and I have never met but I am Kakka’s mother and I would like to second her comment above. I have 2 children, 6 grandchildren and 2 great-grandchildren and I know how precious they all are to me. As a mother I cannot in any way imagine what it must be to lose a child to SIDS or any illness/accident. The people I see in the blogging world are so articulate and are able to express themselves so wonderfully well.
What a beautiful tribute….losing a child is the hardest thing in life but having friends who remeber makes it a little easier as the years go by.
Biggest fear when you have little ones isn’t it?? We were lucky, our babies were born & raised in the NT where they have the lowest rate of SIDS in the country (if you talk white people statistics, unfortunately). They just have so much fresh air & limited covers, but that is not always the case, SIDS still has so many unknowns. We always support Red Nose Day & i’m so very happy my 4th baby is 7 years old now & SIDS is well behind us.
Heart breaking for your friends, just makes you love your own children that little bit extra, so lucky we have them at all. Love Posie
Thanks again Beth